Hi, Reader! I’ve been sporadic lately. When you are trying to build margin in your life, unpredictability is the enemy. You need a rhythm. So, we are building one here. Moving forward, you are going to hear from me three times a week. Each email is designed to do a very specific job for you, depending on where you are in your week. Here is the new cadence: 1. Real Talk Tuesday (The Deep Dive) This is the flagship. You’ll get one story, one breakdown of why the system broke, and three tactical...
3 days ago • 1 min read
Hi, Reader! It usually happens in the driveway. Or right before you turn the doorknob after a long day. It’s a sigh. Not a tired sigh. It sounds more like a valve releasing steam. You aren’t angry at your wife. You aren’t angry at your kids. You love them. You wanted this life. But underneath all of it — the bill-paying, the running around, the logistics of keeping a family alive — there is a low-grade hum of frustration. A quiet fury. Every hour is accounted for. Every ounce of your energy...
8 days ago • 2 min read
Hi, Reader! Real Talk Tuesday Issue Date: July 7, 2026 I'd eat a slice of pie. Then some candy. Back to the pie. Then some more candy. I ate it because it tasted good. I ate it because I was awake. I ate it because I was once again not treating food as fuel. That’s how it starts. Not a binge. Not some big deliberate moment. Little by little. Then, you start feeling sluggish. The pants get tighter. You want to eat and sleep more. You ever been through this? I'm coming off several weeks...
15 days ago • 2 min read
Hi, Reader! Real Talk Tuesday Issue: The 6-Minute Disappearing Act Date: June 30, 2026 My then-10-year-old daughter walked into my office with a drawing she’d made at school that day. She held it up. “Look at this!” I waved her away. I didn’t even look at it. I was waiting for the next Teams message. The next milestone. The next “making memories” moment. The kind you plan in advance and feel good about later. I missed the one that was standing right in front of me. And here’s the part that...
22 days ago • 2 min read
Hi, Reader! Real Talk Tuesday Issue Date: June 23, 2026 Hey brother, Tuesday night after vacation. I was ready for bed at 7:30 PM. Not winding down. Not getting the kids settled. Done. Cooked. I had slept until 8 AM that morning. Rolled out of bed slow. Did nothing hard all day. And by the time dinner was cleared, I had nothing left. My first instinct? This is laziness. You’re just soft right now. You’ve been on vacation too long. That’s the story I was telling myself. But I sat with it a...
29 days ago • 2 min read
Hi, Reader! It's vacation time! We pack the bags, load the car, and tell ourselves this is the reset. We need this. The last three months at work were brutal, and we just want some quiet. Then 45 minutes into the drive, someone loses a shoe. The toddler is screaming. You’re already gripping the steering wheel tight enough to turn your knuckles white. At that point, you realize you aren’t actually on vacation. You’re back to managing a high-stakes logistics project with an unpredictable team....
about 1 month ago • 2 min read
Hi, Reader! It’s 9:30 on a Friday night. The house is finally quiet, the kids are asleep, and you should probably be sitting on the couch with your wife. Instead, you’re standing at the kitchen counter with your laptop open. You tell yourself the same thing I used to tell myself: If I just push through and clear this out tonight, Monday is going to be so much easier. You just need one more hour to get caught up. But you and I both know the truth. You’re never caught up. The finish line is a...
about 2 months ago • 2 min read
Hi, Reader! I lost it over a sink full of dishes this weekend. We were in the middle of a painting project. I walked into the kitchen to grab a rag, saw a few dirty plates in the sink, and I snapped. Not annoyed. I lost it. On my youngest daughter. She stopped talking. She went still. And then she started moving carefully around me, the way you move around someone who is about to go off again. That look on her face. That is the one that gets you. It is the look of a kid who is starting to...
about 2 months ago • 2 min read
Hi, Reader! Real Talk Tuesday Issue Date: May 19, 2026 Hey brother, Last week at 10:17pm, I was sitting on the couch right next to my daughter… but I wasn’t really there. She kept glancing over at me with those big eyes while I stared at my laptop, debugging code for a new health + systems app I’m building for dads like us. The app is designed to track sleep, daily energy, family rhythms, and margin — the exact things high-achieving dads need. I told myself I was “building better fatherhood.”...
2 months ago • 2 min read